Words of Affirmation:
Using words to affirm the other person is a key way to express love. There are thousands of ways to express affirmation by words. These affirmations may focus on the person's behavior, physical appearance, or personality.
Acts of Service:
Doing something you know the other person would like you to do is an expression of love. To the person whose primary love language is acts of service, words may indeed be empty if they are not accompanied by acts of service.
Gifts:
Giving gifts is a universal expression of love. For some people, nothing makes them feel more loved than receiving a gift.
Quality Time:
Quality Time is giving someone your undivided attention. The important thing is not the activity but that the two of you have time together. When you give someone quality time, you are giving him or her a part of your life.
Physical Touch:
We have long known the emotional power of physical touch. Long before a child understands the meaning of love, the child feels loved by physical touch.
Do you know what your love languages are? Here is an exercise to help you
identify the things that make you feel loved. Within each group, rate the
sentences 1 to 5 according to what makes you feel most appreciated and
loved by your spouse. The number 5 represents what you most appreciate, and
the number 1 represents what you least appreciate in each group.
Group One
A. Your spouse says, "You really did a great job on that. I appreciate it."
B. Your spouse unexpectedly does something in or around the house that you appreciate.
C. Your spouse brings you home a surprise treat from the store.
D. Your spouse invites you to go on a leisurely walk just to chat.
E. Your spouse makes a point to embrace and kiss you before leaving the house.
Group Two
A. Your spouse tells you how much he/she appreciates you.
B. Your spouse volunteers to do one of your routine chores and encourages you to relax.
C. Your spouse brings you flowers or a special dessert form the local bakery.
D. Your spouse invites you to sit down and talk about your day.
E. Your spouse enjoys receiving a hug even when you are just passing by room to room.
Group Three
A. Your spouse during a party shares about a recent success you had.
B. Your spouse cleans out your car.
C. Your spouse surprises you with an unexpected gift.
D. Your spouse surprises you with a special afternoon trip.
E. Your spouse holds your hand as you walk through the mall.
Group Four
A. Your spouse praises you about one of your special qualities.
B. Your spouse brings you breakfast in bed.
C. Your spouse surprises you with a membership to something you always wanted.
D. Your spouse plans a special night out for the two of you.
E. Your spouse will personally drive you to the airport instead of making you park and walk.
Group Five
A. Your spouse tells you how much his/her friends appreciate you.
B. Your spouse takes the time to fill out the long applications you had hoped to get to later.
C. Your spouse sends you something special through the mail.
D. Your spouse kidnaps you for lunch and takes you to your favorite restaurant.
E. Your spouse gives you a long backrub.
